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     Your kind words in the comments meant a lot to me. My SIL had such a beautiful way to talk to my brother when a couple of old friends stopped Saturday night. "J...K and R cane to visit you as you are on your journey."  It acknowledged the inevitable but with warmth and care. I guess that is all our lives, and none of us get to decide when it's over. I know I'm struggling on my own journey, and in witnessing the end for people I love. I don't want to be so lost and hopefully in time, my own journey will feel positive again. 

     April seems to want to end in volatility weather wise. I have two commitments today that I hope aren't thwarted by the weather- severe thunderstorms with potential for tornadoes. We'll watch and plan appropriately. Pup is not a fan so will hunker down and stay close. I've got more on my calendar this week than I've had for awhile, but grateful it's free enough to take a few care shifts. Stay safe if you're in a path. 

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  1. AnonymousApril 28, 2025 at 10:02 AM

    I really like your SIL's framing. It's an acknowledgement of what's happening, while being very open & not morose. I hope I can handle a similar situation with such grace. I am so happy for you that your retirement schedule & timing has allowed you the opportunity to provide respite care for your family. What a gift you can offer. - Hawaii Planner

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  2. Cash Only LivingApril 28, 2025 at 12:46 PM

    That's a nice way for your SIL to phrase it. As we age, we will all get to go on this journey and like you, as I age, I am seeing this more and more.

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  3. AnonymousApril 28, 2025 at 3:25 PM

    Your sister in law sounds like a wise woman indeed
    Sending love to you all
    Siobhan x

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  4. CelieApril 28, 2025 at 3:48 PM

    I like the phrasing your SIL used. Caregiving is hard, and it's do nice of family to chip in.

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  5. Anne in the kitchenApril 28, 2025 at 4:10 PM

    I have extreme respect for your SIL and her lovely way she has worded announcing his guests.

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  6. BelindaApril 28, 2025 at 7:15 PM

    Such a lovely statement by your SIL. 💕

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  7. SharonApril 28, 2025 at 7:47 PM

    Lovely words from SIL.
    Hope the storms weren't too bad.

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  8. ElleApril 28, 2025 at 8:05 PM

    Caregiving is the HARDEST thing you'll ever be grateful you did. (my parents)

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  9. LindaApril 28, 2025 at 10:45 PM

    Dodging violent thunderstorms and tornadoes seems to be a way of life here. I'm glad you schedule allows you to things for your family.

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  10. AnonymousApril 29, 2025 at 8:18 PM

    I'm keeping you all in my thoughts, Sam. I am so very sorry for the pain and loss your family is experiencing.

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    1. AnonymousApril 29, 2025 at 8:19 PM

      Tamara R / My Retirement Journey

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  11. AnonymousApril 29, 2025 at 8:39 PM

    Beautiful sentiment that your sil expressed ! Cindy in the South

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  12. Ms. SandieMay 1, 2025 at 5:32 AM

    Your SIL is a strong blessed woman. So are you. A dear friend died several years ago after a long battle. I heard her husband (while trying to transfer her and it was painful) say I know, it hurts. Don't get angry at the opposing player. Get angry with the game. She laughed. I laughed. I would stay with her each morning whilst he would go out to drink his coffee (it made her nauseous) This memory still makes me smile. I hope someday you and your SIL can smile with less pain in your hearts.

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