Lots of Posts Means I'm Avoiding Stuff

      I'm blogging up a storm this week. I'm in full avoidance mode, even though I made my hefty goal list for February. I'm making lists, getting a thought in my head, then going down rabbit holes and links to other rabbits to chase. 

     Yep, I "research" then write when I should be spending my days clearing shelves, going on donation runs, or getting items thrown out. I've not been a complete shut in though. I get outside with the dogs. The big guy chases balls, rarely returning, making me go to him. The old man just saunters the yard, exploring the perimeter. Little Miss watches from the patio doors. I spent a long day at a show choir competition. It was enjoyable, but I probably will not attend more than one a year. When it's not my own kid, there's only so many mashups of Broadway, pop, and movie themes set to choreography that I want to sit through. I had a night out with the mom friends- really therapy session, but not for me this time. 

     I'm cooking and baking too. Muffin breads and two huge zucchini chocolate chip loaves and a few pots of soup all in one week. Other than the mom's dinner and light lunch at show choir, no meals or coffee out. 

     I want to get my taxes done before March but have some paperwork delays. I have picked up my tax statements on my retirement accounts and need to print off W2s from my jobs and Social Security. I need to make an appointment but feel until I have all needed papers, I should wait. My youngest is not doing great again mental health wise. Her meds were changed and she is having a hard time adjusting as well as the constant strain she feels on her emotions with the news outside her door. I missed book club as I was trying to talk her through a meltdown. I'm going up to her place Saturday for some mom TLC. I've got cats to care for, airport runs, and family caregiving. I'm tired now and wonder when I get to try and care for myself. I both desperately need my trip and am incredibly worried about going next month. 

Comments

  1. Misadventures of WidowhoodFebruary 5, 2026 at 7:27 PM

    I've always thought blogging is a form of self-therapy, a way to get at what is really worrying or bothering us about how our life is going at the moment. I get the avoidance thing, too, and how it leads to the creation of more blog posts. I can get myself involved in an online project that doesn't have to be completed for months while avoiding something that needed doing yesterday.

    Sorry about your daughter. Cyber hugs coming your way.

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    1. SAMFebruary 6, 2026 at 7:44 AM

      You've described it well. If I'd just spend 1/3 of my free time on what should be done I'd still have rabbit hole and blog time.

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  2. SharonFebruary 5, 2026 at 8:11 PM

    It sounds as though you have had some busy days too! I'm glad you managed to at least get out with the dogs. Taxes are not fun

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    1. SAMFebruary 6, 2026 at 7:46 AM

      My taxes are off this year with regular wages, subbing, SSI, ,contract work, interest, and ,501k withdrawal. I'd like to do myself but don't dare.

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  3. KirstenMFebruary 6, 2026 at 3:36 AM

    Your cup runneth over... dumping low priority sruff and focusing on a few unavoidables seems a good way forward.
    Have you heard of 'morning pages'? In a nutshell you sit down in the morning and write 2-3 pages (depends on size of page) of anything, spelling ,grammar ,size of writing, content, all optional. I found that towards the very end of the 2nd page, just as it was time to stop, I'd drilled down to what was at the bottom of everything. Then I stopped, had coffee, and carried on with the day. Keep it private, don't reread, and throw it away as you may find you have written the unsayable!

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    1. SAMFebruary 6, 2026 at 7:47 AM

      Yes I know what my priorities should be and should focus there.

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  4. TreadersFebruary 6, 2026 at 5:28 AM

    Good for you for being there for your daughter! It might not feel useful but she will always be thankful!

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    1. SAMFebruary 6, 2026 at 7:48 AM

      It's very painful to see/hear when she's in these episodes. I worry she'll never truly adult because that's when she's faced with real decisions she melts down.

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  5. GinaFebruary 6, 2026 at 9:03 AM

    It sounds like you are juggling a lot, so maybe go easy on yourself. Self-care is an absolute must. Every day you can start again, so don't worry about what you haven't done. Sounds like you are doing quite a lot!

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    1. SAMFebruary 7, 2026 at 8:14 AM

      It feels like a lot but I'm not working so shouldn't be what it feels.

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  6. Ms. SandieFebruary 7, 2026 at 5:54 PM

    I'm very understanding of all you are typing and feeling. Hugs to you.

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